Metathesiophobia: the fear of change
Whether big or small, change is something that scares us. Starting a course at university, trying out a new restaurant, moving house or simply going to the hairdresser for a make over. Change can be absolutely terrifying.
But why is that?
Change scares us simply because we fear the ‘unknown’. I must tell you though the unknown isn’t all that bad. There is a sense of excitement when starting something for the first time, and let’s be honest – do you really want to spend the rest of your days pursuing an unhappy life?
I have moved country, I have changed school, I have had different jobs, and I’ve changed my hairstyle many (many!) different times. I was scared every single time. Scared I wouldn’t fit in, I wouldn’t make friends, I wouldn’t enjoy my job, or I would look bad because of a new haircut – and, oh! Have I looked bad!
I have learnt something though, something important that we must never forget: change is good. We tend to forget that and just go with the flow. We may be unhappy, but we accept it and remain where we are, simply because we are afraid of it.
When I graduated from university, proudly holding my Communication degree, I was determined and ready to conquer the world. How adorable, right? On a beautiful sunny day, life decided to slap me in the face with a good dose of reality, and suddenly I realised how very difficult it was going to be to find my dream job, with the perfect workmates, the amazing working hours, the fun boss, the pretty stationery (because, let’s be honest, we all love new stationery) and that wonderful paycheque at the end of the month.
I am not going to lie, I have changed job several times before finding out what I really wanted to do. I have had different bosses, colleagues, desks and job titles. But I never stopped looking, and never settled for anything I wasn’t really sure of. I have only recently switched to Switch, and I was indeed afraid of yet another change in my life. I must say though, for the little I have been here I have already learnt a lot and really I’m enjoying it. I get to do what I love most – writing– surrounded by a bunch of fun and creative people. And you know what? I have so many pretty pens, highlighters, sticky notes and note pads. Oh the joy of new stationery!
Why is change good?
- If it weren’t for change, we would never learn new things. We would simply be stuck in a repetitive and soon enough boring routine.
- It’s a nice reminder that the bad times don’t have to last forever. It’s okay not to be okay, but remember that you can change things round if you are not happy.
- It’s a wake up call. One day you will realise that you actually need a change, whether it’s moving the furniture around the house or travel to another continent.
- It pushes us out of our comfort zone. There is a very thin line between living and existing – which one are you going to choose?
There you have it folks, change is inevitable. Everything changes – so embrace it, don’t fear it.
Change is good. Change is healthy.